Part 2: Unconditional Love as Frequency, Not Transaction
We are conditioned to view love through a societal lens—transactional, performative, conditional.
We look outward and say:
"They’re not showing up."
"They don’t love me the way I want."
We measure love through text messages, responses, gifts, achievements, bodies, promises.
And yet, the deepest truth is this:
Unconditional love is not something you receive. It’s something you become.
It is forged in the inner sanctum of your own heart—the place where you stop demanding perfection and begin to hold space for all of you: your joy, your grief, your fear, your radiance. And as you learn to love yourself this way, you begin to offer this same grace to others.
Even when it begins through the mirror of an intimate partner, this love evolves beyond that form. You begin to love your friends this way. Your coworkers. The stranger in the grocery store. The ones who trigger you. The ones who leave. The ones who stay.
Because you realize: none of them are here to complete you.
They are here to reflect you.
So the question becomes:
Can you allow the ache of love to live inside your chest without needing to fix it?
Can you allow someone to walk away and still know you are whole?
Can you look at the mirror of another and instead of saying, "They aren’t this," simply ask: "What in me is ready to be seen, held, and loved now?"
To love unconditionally is to remember that love is not a feeling.
It’s a frequency.
It’s the very light of the Creator, flowing through you, asking not that you control it—but that you become it.
This love threatens every societal structure that says you must earn worth. It dissolves the belief that your identity is made of money, sex, productivity, or performance.
In true remembrance, you don’t need to prove that you are lovable. You simply are love.
And in becoming that, you naturally offer others the same freedom.
Can we hold our sadness, our longing, our unmet needs—not as failures, but as invitations?
Can we stop pointing outward and instead soften inward?
Can we let love be what leads us home?
Because truly, the world would be a gentler, more beautiful place if each of us began with the radical act of loving ourselves.
As Rumi wrote:
"I searched for God and found only myself. I searched for myself and found only God."
This is the path.
This is the remembering.
This is the love that does not collapse when it is not returned.
This is the love that frees.
Start with you. The rest will come.
Reflection for You
What are the conditions you've unknowingly placed on love?
How would your life shift if you began offering yourself the same love you long to receive?