The Diamond Beneath the Mud: Healing Through Release

Part 3 of the "When the Wound Returns" series

We've been sold a lie about healing.

We're told that healing means becoming stronger, more resilient, more capable of holding the weight of the world without breaking.

We're told to "level up," to "do the work," to build ourselves into fortresses that can withstand any storm.

But that's not healing. That's armor.

True healing is the opposite.

Healing isn't about how much you can hold. It's about how much you're willing to release.

It's about putting down the stories that were never yours to carry.

It's about releasing the belief that you have to earn love through performance.

It's about letting go of the identity you built to survive and remembering the essence you were born to embody.

Think of yourself as a diamond covered in mud. The mud isn't who you are—it's what you picked up along the way. The conditioning. The trauma. The beliefs that said you weren't enough. The roles you played to stay safe. The masks you wore to be loved.

Healing isn't about adding more layers. It's about washing away the mud so the diamond can shine.

You are not broken. You never were.

You are whole, radiant, and complete beneath the layers of protection you built when the world told you that your light was too much, too bright, too wild, too free.

In my journey, I've experienced this profound truth: Every time I released a layer—every time I cried in breathwork, every time I let myself feel the rage and the grief, every time I stopped performing and just was—I didn't become less. I became more myself.

I released the need to be chosen and remembered that I am the chooser.

I released the belief that I needed a man to complete me and discovered that I am the completion.

I released the story that I had to dim my light to be loved and stepped fully into my radiance.

And in that release, I didn't lose anything. I gained everything.

Because what I released was never real. It was just the weight I carried that blocked my light.

So stop trying to hold more. Stop trying to be stronger, tougher, more capable of carrying the world.

Instead, ask yourself: "What am I ready to put down?"

What story are you ready to release?

What belief are you ready to let go of?

What identity are you ready to shed?

Because on the other side of that release is the you that you've been searching for all along.

The you that is light, free, whole, and radiant.

The you that doesn't need to prove, perform, or perfect.

The you that simply is.

Next in this series: Lesson Four - Your Divine Worthiness —>