The Mirror of Love: All the Answers You Seek Are Within You

Part 2 of the "When the Wound Returns" series

We are taught from birth to look outside ourselves for validation, direction, and truth.

We ask our parents: "Am I good enough?"

We ask our teachers: "Am I smart enough?"

We ask our partners: "Am I lovable enough?"

We ask society: "Am I worthy enough?"

And in that asking, we give away our power. We hand over the keys to our wholeness and wait for someone else to unlock the door.

But here's the truth that shatters the illusion:

No one outside of you has ever had the answer you were seeking. They only ever reflected back what you already knew but were too afraid to claim.

Every person you've loved, every relationship that broke you open, every moment you felt seen—they were mirrors. Not sources. Not saviors. Not the answer.

Mirrors.

When you felt loved by someone, it wasn't because they gave you love. It was because their presence allowed you to feel the love that was already within you. When you felt seen, it wasn't because they had special vision. It was because they reflected back the parts of yourself you had been hiding.

And when you felt abandoned, rejected, or unseen? That wasn't about them either. It was the mirror showing you the places where you had abandoned, rejected, or refused to see yourself.

This is the medicine of the mirror.

I experienced this at the deepest level with a man I loved—my twin flame, a soul connection so intense it shattered every illusion I had about love, worthiness, and wholeness. Every time I reached for him, every time I longed for his validation, every time I wondered if he loved me—the universe was asking: "But do you love you?"

And the moment I stopped seeking his reflection and turned inward, the moment I realized "I am whole, I am home, I am the love I've been seeking"—he dropped away. Not because I forced it. Not because I "let go" through willpower.

But because the mirror was no longer needed.

I had finally seen myself.

This is what it means to come home to yourself. To stop outsourcing your worth, your wisdom, your wholeness. To recognize that every answer you've ever sought was already encoded in your cells, whispered by your soul, held in the quiet knowing beneath the noise.

The guides, the teachers, the healers, the partners—they can point you toward the door. But only you can walk through it.

Only you can remember what you've always known.

So the next time you find yourself asking someone else for permission, validation, or direction, pause. Place your hand on your heart. Close your eyes. And ask yourself:

"What do I already know?"

And then listen.

Because the answer is there. It always has been.

Next in this series: Lesson Three - Healing Through Release —>